“You’re too young.”
“What in the world do you have to worry about at your age?”
“High school is the best time of your life.”
These are just some of the many sentences teens hear when they try to discuss their mental health. Teen mental health continues to be marginalized, misunderstood, and ignored, even with growing awareness. Behind the facade of seemingly normal existence, many teens silently struggle with anxiety, depression, trauma, and loneliness, often with no help or recognition.
According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), more than 1 in 3 high school students experienced persistent feelings of sadness and hopelessness in 2021. That’s a staggering 44%, the highest it’s been in over a decade. Even more alarming, nearly 1 in 55 seriously considered attempting suicide, and 9% attempted it. These numbers are more than statistics; they are silent cries for help from teens who feel unseen and unheard.
The pressure of doing well in school, maintaining a social life, managing family experiences and expectations, and dealing with he growing influence of social media is a recipe for mental burnout. Add to that the impact of global events like the COVID-19 pandemic, and you have a generation fighting wars that can’t be seen daily.
Teen mental illness gets dismissed as” mood swings”, “drama”, or “just a phase”. But it is not safe to assume that. For example, take a student named Jordann. Jordan has been doing poorly in class, they’ve been withdrawn within the classroom, and their friends inform them they’ve been distant. The teacher could chalk it up to laziness or disinterest when, in fact, Jordan is battling depression. Left to their own devices, teens like Jordan must carry this weight on their own.
In another instance, Mia is an accomplished honors student, always mailing and with a long line of extracurriculars. But behind closed doors, she wakes up crying from stress and anxiety. Because she appears to “be doing well”, no one will ask her how she is doing. The “high-functioning” teens are typically the most overlooked.
There are several reasons why teen mental health falls through the cracks:
- Stigma – Teens do not wish to be considered “crazy,” “weak,” or “attention-seeking,” especially in environments where emotional expression is not supported.
- Lack of Resources – Schools often lack mental health professionals. The American School Counselor Association suggests there be 250 students per school counselor, yet the current ratio is approximately 408:1
- Societal and Cultural Expectations – In some families or cultures, mental illness is something that may not be discussed.
- Adult Assumptions – Adults are prone to forgetting just how overwhelming adolescence is. What to an adult may be small can feel like an ocean to a teen.
For change to happen, it begins with non-judgmental listening. Adolescents must feel secure in speaking out without the fear of invalidation. Schools must expand access to licensed counselors, provide distinct mental health education, and establish peer support systems.
Parents and guardians need to take the time to check in not only about chores or grades, but also about how their child is feeling. Asking a question like “How are you, really?” or “What’s been weighing on your mind lately?” can be a door opener.
And social media sites and technology companies need to set up and make online spaces less toxic, because they have so much influence over young minds.
If you’re a teenager and struggling, understand that you’re not isolated. Your feelings and thoughts are real and validated. Help exists, and you’re worth it not because you’re “broken” but because you’re human.
Let’s end the “tough it out” messages to teenagers and start saying, “I see you. I’m here. You matter.” Because the quest’s teenagers are not necessarily the most comfortable being loud, and sometimes, they’re the ones screaming for help the loudest. And if we just keep ignoring them, we risk losing more than their smile; we risk losing their lives.
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